Bamboo never breaks, but bends with the changing winds of life…

By on Sep 4, 2013 in Blog, Inspiration, Life

Bending Bamboo

Over the past few weeks I have had the incredible opportunity of seeing life begin to blossom before my eyes. I have seen the first glimpse of a smile burst into elation; I have seen a fake cry become a sea of tears; I have seen a lost hand take a tight grip onto my finger…all the while I have also had to keep up with the day to day responsibilities of my career, marriage, family and friends.

I had heard from many that when you welcome a sweet little angel into the world it can be quite hectic, so I decided to wait for the “right” time. After a while I was still waiting and then one day someone very dear to me said, “there is never a right time…” this hit me clear as day, and I realized this was absolutely correct…when is there ever a perfect time for anything?

How grateful I was to then be blessed with this beautiful new life and although it was one of the most, if not the most significant moment of my life, in the back of my mind I always pondered…will I be able to balance it all. For me, it was not a question…I have no choice.  My mission in this life is to share East Asian medicine and philosophy with as many as possible, as I have been and continue to be so fortunate to have this wisdom and knowledge passed to me. So, there was no option for it to stop.

It has been a few months now and I can say that in my experience it is possible. There are many moments of re-evaluation, where I must stop to remind myself of my priorities. The key principle that has walked beside me through the start of this journey has been – when to do and when not to do. Now more than ever I realize that the most important thing that I can do is to go with the flow…to follow the Tao.

This does not mean that I take life by the seat of my pants. As always I have clear goals and timelines, stressors and much responsibility, but instead of letting them take control of my life, I choose to remain in control.  In order to have this power over my reality I must be open to the fact that life is filled with changes and I must be flexible or else something is bound to break with the inevitable turns of life; just as bamboo never breaks, but bends with the changing winds of life.

I have always been keen on constantly checking myself throughout my daily routine:

What must I achieve in this day, this hour, this minute?

 Am I making the correct decisions for all involved?

 At the end of today, this week, this month…is whatever I am doing going to make a clear difference to my life and for those around me, or am I wasting time?

 Am I continuing on my life path?

 Am I staying aware of those around me?

This may seem like a lot to think about on a consistent basis, but these questions soon become habit…not something you need to constantly remind yourself to do (although it is necessary in the beginning), but something that becomes natural to you (like breathing…we don’t have to think about breathing it is a part of us). This is one way to practice “walking” meditation. A way to constantly stay on the correct path, a way to purify and see yourself clearly, while still achieving all of your daily tasks.

With this practice comes the freedom from being OVER-whelmed, OVER-stressed, OVER-occupied. Life becomes much “easier” to handle and because your mind is not filled with extra clutter, you will look upon your day before your head hits the pillow and realize that you actually achieved a lot. Especially during these times where it seems that everywhere we turn there is hardship, having control over our own reality becomes necessary, or it is so easy to get caught up in a downward spiral – emotionally, physically & spiritually. One of the most important things to remember is that our life and what occurs in our life starts within ourself.

I was raised being reminded that every opportunity is in front of you, you have the ability.  The means of achieving everything and anything is all around you…in your environment…in nature. It is up to you to grab this opportunity and run with it. There are times when people, or situations…often even yourself,  try to slow your path, try to detour you, but if you remember that everything you need in order to accomplish your goals is around you,  your path will no longer seem dark…you will be able to shine a light along your path so that you can see clearly once again.

Just take it one step at a time and remember you are not alone, at the very least…I am doing it with you.

 

 

 

 

One Comment

  1. Jenelle,
    What a beautiful, intelligent young woman you have become. Your words are inspiring, and not just to the new mothers out there. As a mother of 3 children (2 almost adults) it is easy for me to understand your thought process, I can relate to where you are headed, I can visualize your words, and recall that same moment in my life as a new mother. I have to admit I am jealous that you are capturing this in writing – it is so very important, especially to your child.
    If I may, your East Asian philosophy falls nothing short of being a good, kind, loving person to everyone at all times (I mean no disrespect as I know it means much more than that!)
    As Jennifer and I struggle with mom’s recent diagnosis your words are comforting and reassuring. I must stay focused, have meaning in all I do and say, and without hope in our lives we have nothing.
    Thank you for being there
    June

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